I've said it half a dozen ways, but here's the one thing I've learned from my unresolved, unrequited love:

Of all the people i have loved, which one of them has not sometimes needed that same devotion? Which one has not in all their need and beauty deserved the attention, the time, the considered gift? Which would not shine in that relentless ( Read more... )

http://m.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/

I've read this article before, but it's since occurred to me that all of its points relate to community cohesiveness and bonding, as well, not just single-partner ( Read more... )

The slow realization that nothing - no matter how warm and magical, no matter how crushing and awful, is ever, ever personal is strangely freeing. No situation requires anything other but a natural, logical and compassionate response.

No tragedy, no difficulty, no pile of work to be done. No flirtation (or lack of,) no judgment, no exclusion. No hug ( Read more... )

People get genuine pleasure from the ways in which i love them. I don't get much in return, most of the time, except observing that pleasure, but... a peace with that has opened, suddenly and silently. A new strength in the skeletal core.

To have expectations of others is to make plans that include their participation without their consent. This does not respect their feelings nor, more importantly, their free will, and worst, it cheapens the gift of their time and attention when they do elect to give it: what is expected is rarely received with due gratitude ( Read more... )

Needs or desires, ignored, only become more complex and harder to fufil over time. This is elementary, but i dislike it ( Read more... )

My body has nearly no public aspect: no call for private performance. Anyone who has touched it has looked for me despite it, not to me because of it. I have never had to concern myself in a serious way with its effect on others, no matter how close, and likely never will ( Read more... )

At an event some months ago, which i cannot explain fully just now (and after which we met the irish guys in lederhosen, which is something of a story in an of itself), i was - struck, or called to attention by, the attitudes of the panel on stage, when each of them was speaking. The others, to a man, were rapt by the speaker - not because they ( Read more... )

There is a lot of thought swimming here, and it has several origins, but only one end: at least so far ( Read more... )

I was concerned that my voice had changed in the past year: become deeper or rougher, or otherwise altered in a way that might point to a medical condition, so i asked G about it ( Read more... )